Kate Wilder is officially our favorite part-time breeder. After yesterdays ruling of a federal appeals court that says a suburban Chicago student can wear a “Be Happy, Not Gayâ€? T-shirt at his high school, Wilder, bi-lesbian, decided to state her own opinion on her blog. The appeal overturns a lower court’s ruling that sided with the Naperville school’s move to ban the anti-gay shirt. The school argued the shirt’s message is derogatory and could disrupt education – no shit.

Here’s what we agreed with.
Wilder said that “It’s been a rocky road for married couples lately, what with the Eliot Spitzer hooker revelations, the confessions by his replacement, David Paterson, of his extramarital affairs, the 20-something dalliances of Michigan Sen. Debbie Stabenow’s hubby and the rumors that long-married 55-year-old Russia President Vladimir Putin has been hanging with gymnast babe Alina Kabaeva, 24.

Same-sex couples are a lot happy and healthier when it comes to love, or so says the Gottman researchers in Seattle — the same lab that has provided countless landmark studies on heteros.”

After 12 years of research, they’ve found that, yes, gays and lesbians still struggle with a lot of the issues heteros do — and I’ve seen some relationship breakups among my gay friends that would send you straight to Dr. Phil or a bottle of vodka, whichever was closer at the time — but they handle conflict better, using “affection and humor when they bring up a disagreement, and partners are more positive in how they receive it.”

This is where we went WTF
“[Gays are] also more honest about monogamy and sex — especially since many gay men view sex outside the relationship as totally OK. But they don’t do it secretively, and that’s the biggest difference.”

I’m sorry, but that won’t pass with me. I really think Wilder should rephrase it to say “some gays” because I know I’m no hoe… not now anyways ;) Regardlessly, speaking on behalf of the gay male community there are many of us out there looking for the right person and we really don’t appreciate being part of a false stereotype. It’s as stupid as saying all black guys have the giant bananas. It’s totally ridiculous.